I didn't have the energy to do things that often made me happy nor did I want to go out and socialise with friends. I wasn't looking after myself or cared what I thought of my appearance. I just wasn't myself.
Me and my Dad |
I can still remember one friend telling me if I continue to push people away (I didn't realise that I was at the time) then I will lose friends. I guess it was her way of saying, if you don't ask me for help I will just leave you to it. It took me a long time to say that I wasn't handling things, and to realise I was unhappy.
While she is still a friend today, she's distanced herself from me and I don't see her as much as I used to. Unfortunately we no longer call each other like we used to.
It would have been nice to have had a friend be there for me and ask me “Are you OK?”, “Are you coping?”, “Is there anything I can do for you”. Sometimes all you need is a friendly face, and someone to chat to.
Luckily it didn't take me long to realise that something was terribly wrong with me. I opened up about my feelings with my Hubby, and spoke to my GP. I am okay now, but there are days I still miss Dad and think about him.
October is mental health month. If you know someone who is going through a rough time take the time to check in with them and ask them "R U OK?".
If you are experiencing a personal crisis and finding it hard to cope see your GP or give one of the support centre's like Lifeline (131114) a call.
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I remember getting a 'don't cut yourself off' from friends when I was depressed. I didn't mean to, but I just couldn't be around people. Although I really didn't understand it at the time. Depression is hard for everyone. I'm so sorry you lost some friends. Hopefully you've made more since then xxx
ReplyDeleteThanks Jess x
DeleteOh Julie- I am so sorry about your Dad and all you have been through... but I am very happy that you eventually spoke up and got the help you need. No one should suffer in silence. Big hugs huni xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Son xx
DeleteSo sorry for your loss, Julie. I'm glad your got the help and support that you needed. x
ReplyDeleteThanks Grace xx
DeleteIts not easy when you have depression, but I get it...I too suffer from it from time to time. And the last thing I feel like doing is going out and seeing friends.
ReplyDeleteI guess that friends are supposed to be there no matter what, but sometimes they aren't
Over the years I have learnt to be with family - they are so important and are what makes life easier when down.
Hope you are Okay?