11 August 2015
Letter to the new NICU Mumma
I know it sounds strange to be called Mumma when your baby should still be in your tummy.
I know you are scared, terrified, anxious, worried about what you did that could have caused your baby to be born early.
Nothing you did made your baby come early.
Be kind to yourself Mumma. I know its hard.
Please don't feel like a failure because you couldn't bring your baby to full term. Its not your fault.
If you had a choice your baby would still be all snug in your tummy, growing and getting all the nutrients it needs.
You gave your baby as much as you possibly could. Please don't beat yourself up.
I know it hurts not to have your baby in the room with you, or to be able to hold her, nurse her, or when you hear the joy of other new Mumma's with their newborns in the room.
Its okay to be angry, to cry, to be disappointed.
Spend time talking to her, let her hear your voice, tell her your dreams, read her stories.
Touch her through the portholes of the humidicrib so she knows you are there and she's not all alone.
Help the nurses with changing her nappy when you are able to.
It will be worth it once you get to hold that sweet baby in your arms and eventually take her home.
You may question the doctors time and time again, and worry about all the different alarms and monitors going off. Remember everything they are doing is for a good reason, and is so your little one can soon come home.
Mumma, make sure you sleep when you can, eat healthy, drink water and try to think positively about your sweet baby. You need to look after yourself.
I know you are finding it difficult, but you need to rest and make sure you have plenty of strength to get you through this difficult time.
Be there for your partner, cry, talk, hug, share your thoughts and worries.
I know this isn't the start into parenthood you wanted, but its here now so make sure you treasure every moment with your little one.
Lots of love, Julie
ex-NICU Mummy of Popette (6 1/2 years)
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