03 February 2011

I'll never be a cleaning Supermum

I'm not a cleaning supermum, and will not even pretend to be one. I wonder why there are so many women who are obsessed in trying to do everything at once or in a day?

Why can't they learn to smell the roses and take it easy. I'd rather spend time with my daughter playing or watching her play, then stress about the cleaning. It will be there tomorrow, and the day after that, and the day after that. My daughter's youth will not be. I understand the importance of having a clean house, clean clothes, food on the table etc etc. But there are some women who want everything to be just perfect, and want it done all at once. I don't know how some women do it. They either have great support from their spouses, family or friends (not to mention a babysitter), or are just completely trashed by the end of all the cleaning that they need a lie down when their child has one.

Then there's the women who always have to brag about how much time they have spent cleaning their house, or how many loads of washing they have done or the time its taken them to mop the floors....I'm not sure if they are looking for a pat on the back or just want to brag how wonderful they are? Maybe they don't get the sort of recognition they are after from their husband/partner/boyfriend etc. My reply tends to be "When you're finished yours, can you come and do mine"? ;-)
Sure I like to keep my house looking clean, but tidy, forget it! My 2 year old leaves her toys all over the lounge room floor, not to mention in the kitchen, hallway, our bedroom and dining room, so I've come to the sad realisation that it will never be tidy again....well not for a long while. When she was little I would spend time putting things away, but now when I do manage to put her toys away, she has some sort of 'six sense' and gets back up to pull them all out again! Arrgghh!!

I don't mind toys being spread over the floor, provided there's no tripping hazards, but I never want to be the type of person who has to have a spotless and prestine house that looks like a museum where there's no evidence of life in the house, not even a photo on the wall. To me that's just sad. We have photo's of our daughter, amongst other family members on the walls, and in frames on the bookcase or other cabinets. We have my little artist's latest paintings hanging from the fridge and dining room window (a couple of pegs and a piece of string....voila, instant artwork). I think this makes your house feel more like a home....sure I could get rid of the mountain of "Notebook" magazines that are sitting in the corner of the lounge room, which I don't read anymore but don't want to get rid of....it was such a great magazine after all.  :-)

I guess I don't like to stress about cleaning. I definately don't want to be one of these woman who likes to see track marks on the carpet from the amount of times she has vaccummed the floor, or see their reflection in the benchtops. I ensure that the floor is mopped and the rugs are vaccummed, but it's not something I do every day. If there's been a spillage on the benchtop or floor I will clean it up...but I'm not going to get the mop out each time my little one wants to crawl around or play on the floor. I'm not going to stress if on a particular day I've spent more time playing with my child or taking her out to see some of her friends, then doing the housework. Life is too short and should be enjoyed. Unfortunately cleaning isn't something I enjoy.

I'm very fortunate to have a wonderful hubby who helps me (most of the time). He'll help tidy up the house (especially when we have visitors coming over....any junk is normally hidden behind closed doors), washes the clothes and hangs them on the line, cooks dinner (he once told me it's something he enjoys (even though that was a looong time ago)....so don't want to stop him now :-)), occassionally he remembers to pack the dishwasher and turns it on (mostly only packs), and will unpack it when finished, folds clothes and puts them away, as well as the other chores such as mowing and taking out the trash. I know I am very lucky. I know quite a few woman who don't have husbands who help out, or are very critical when the house hasn't been tidied or cleaned. Which means she then spends hours, after bathing and putting the kids to bed, to ensure the house is sparkling clean & tidy before hubby wakes in the morning.....hmmmmm......I don't think that's fair.

My hubby will sometimes joke "What have you done all day", but deep down he knows how hard it is to look after a little one. He knows that the housework isn't as important as spending quality time with my daughter. Yesterday I gave the kitchen a quick clean up while Missy watched "The Wiggles Australia Day concert". Hubby commented on how nice it was when he got home. It was nice that he noticed, but some days he needs to be told of what's been done (especially when you do something, and have to do it again and again, because you're little helper undoes what you've just done....e.g. fold all her clothes, she unfolds them and plays with them!!)

At the end of the day as long as we're happy and healthy, that's all that counts.


  1. :-) sounds familiar. Our house is always messy. I try to keep up with selective cores, particularly laundry. Something I try to do is turn the housework into a game that I do with my daughter rather than rushing around while she's asleep or trying to convince her to play on her own. She is naturally curious and wants to watch. Certain tasks work better than others. She likes to help me pull the clothes out of the washing machine and put them into the drier. I just have to work out how to stop her pulling them straight out again.

  2. I know what you mean :-) My daughter likes to "help" with the cleaning, she'll pick up any tissues or paper and put them in the rubbish bin, and sometimes sweeps using my little broom....most of the time though I need to redo it again :-)


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